Sunday, July 15, 2012

Cross-Posting Dr. Carroll

Below is an article written by one my personal heroes. I have followed his work and his opinions and thoughts for the entire six and a half years I've lived in Haiti and I always respect what he says and how he cares for Haiti and her people.  


When we have a chance to visit the homes of the women we serve after their babies come, we always, always leave humbled.  
Dr. John shares about his most recent house visit here: 
Jean-Ronel and Manaika
(Photo by John Carroll, MD--July 14, 2012)


Many years ago while working in a free clinic in Peoria, I came to realize how a house call could teach much more about a patient than seeing the patient in the office. Office visits are artificial and don’t tell you near as much about the patient.

I remember visiting a 90 year old patient of mine in Peoria who weighed 350 pounds. During my visit she showed me where a raccoon fell through the ceiling of her closet in her bedroom and then was shot dead by a family member. I also noticed how far away her medication was kept from her and how dificult it was for her to access it. Her handicapped son George, replete with tuxedo, sang beautiful songs, but didn’t help much with his mom's health care. I couldn’t have learned this information with a simple office visit.

Yesterday in clinic in Soleil a father brought his three year old daughter to clinic. It is not often that fathers bring their children to pediatric clinic in Haiti. He seemed to be a very caring father. The little girl had orange hair, a congested cough, and impetigo on her arms.

They seemed to be quite poor--I would say close to the bottom of Haiti’s poor class.

The father’s name is Jean-Ronel and his daughter is Manaika.

I asked the father where Manaika’s mother was. Frequently when the father brings the child to the doctor the mother is selling goods on the street, has sick kids at home, just had a baby, or is sick herself.  However, Jean-Ronel told me that his wife had died suddenly on December 17, 2010. He told me that she had died due to a spell cast by the houngan.

I treated Manaika yesterday with medication for impetigo and institued empiric treatment for worms and iron deficiency. However, I wanted to see Jean-Ronel’s and Manaika’s living conditions and I wanted to talk to him more about their lives.  

I needed to make a Haitian house call. 

I got Jean-Ronel’s cell phone number before he left and told him I would call him today to arrange a visit to his house and talk to him about his life. He agreed.

So today I met Jean-Ronel on a street corner here in Sarthe, a huge northern section of Port-au-Prince. 
It was a typical Saturday morning in Port-au-Prince. Temperature in the sun today had to be about 100 F. We inched slowly in traffic about four miles north along very congested Route National 1 to Jean-Ronel's neighborhood called Lizon.

Forty-five minutes later we arrived at the place Jean-Ronel calls home. The front door to the very unfinished cinderblock house was a piece of plywood that Jean-Rinol removed to let us enter the house. Looking to the north one can see mountains in the distance.

Jean-Ronel’s brother Nazair, the owner of the house, proudly showed me each room. He named the rooms as the kitchen, the living room, the dining room, the bathroom, etc. This all seemed normal conversation except all the rooms were empty and most had no roof. Nazair told me that he had been building this house for 10 years now assembling it block by block. Cement is not cheap in Haiti. Nazair lives here with his wife Vela, their three children, Jean-Ronel and Manaika.

So after the brief house tour, I sat down in a plastic white chair in a roofless hall and listened while Jean-Ronel spoke.
Jean-Ronel is 31 years old and very thin. He wears a baseball cap.

He was born and raised in Mirebalais, a village just 30 miles north of Port-au-Prince over the mountains in the distance.  He completed 10 years of education but had no money to finish his secondary school.  And because he had Nazair and his wife Vela here in Lizon he decided to move here a few years before the earthquake. There just were not any opportunites for him in Mirebalais.

Jean-Ronel says that he can read and write some. He said he has been to southern Haiti only once and has never been north. Mirebalais and Port-au-Prince are almost all he knows.

After arriving in Port-au-Prince he and his wife produced Manaika in 2008. His wife was about 15 years older than Jean-Ronel.

The earthquake occured on January 12, 2010 and the three of them were living in a rented house. And it was not damaged in the quake and none of them were hurt. So they stayed there.

I asked Jean-Ronel what happened to his wife.  He told me that she had an argument with a woman in December 2010. Some bad words were exchanged. Jean-Ronel left the house one day shortly after the argument to run some errands on the streets.  When he arrived back at the house later in the day his wife was gone. His wife's family told them that she laid down during the day and died. Her family insisted that she died because an illness was sent to her by the houngan because of her argument with the lady a few days before. And they had already transported her body to the morgue.

I asked Jean-Ronel if he believed in the houngan and he said no that he did not but his wife’s family did. I asked Jean-Ronel what religion he is and he said Catholic. But when I asked him what church he goes to he said the “The Church of God” locally in Lizon. I told him that was not a Catholic church. He looked surprised and just shrugged. He also volunteered that he has never been baptized.

So after his wife’s death, he and baby Manaika, unable to pay rent any longer, moved to a tent city in Sarthe, and stayed there for four months. But the living conditions in the tent were so bad that Nazair accepted them into his house in Lizon which is where they remain today.

Jean-Ronel and Manaika sleep on a mat on the floor of the bathroom which is just an empty room with a rocky uneven floor and a blue tarp for a roof.

I asked Jean-Ronel if he had ever heard of cholera. He said yes he had heard of it on the radio but did not know what it was. Incredibly, after almost two years of cholera ravaging Haiti, Jean-Ronel didn’t know what cholera was.

I explained to him that cholera is an illness that causes vomiting and diarrhea.  I asked Jean-Ronel where he would take his daughter if she got ill from cholera and he shook his head and said he did not know where to take her. However, Vela, his sister in law who was listening to our conversation, commented that cholera causes diarrhea, vomiting and death and she would take any ill family member to Foyer St. Camille if they became ill. (This is a hospital set up by an Italian order of Catholic priests and nuns several miles from their house in Lizon. It no longer has an active Cholera Treatment Unit, but Vela does not know that.)

When I asked Jean-Ronel where they get their drinking water, he replied that they buy it from a truck which has treated water inside it. But I saw no cistern to store the water.  I saw no Culligan water bottles. And so I asked them again where they get their drinking water and Vela pointed down the road. She said they get it from a hand pump which pumps up water from the water table (anba woch).  Vela said that they purify that water only when they have AquaTabs which she buys at the boutique. And this depends on whether she has a few extra cents for the AquaTabs.

I asked Jean-Ronel how often the family eats and he said twice each day. But Vela overruled him again and said that they only eat once a day. And that is rice covered with red bean sauce. No eggs, meat, milk for anyone.

I asked Jean-Ronel if he was happy with his life. He said yes right away because he still has “souf”. ..which means he is still breathing.

I asked him what he wishes for. He said he wishes for a job and that his Manaika is cleared of her illness.

I asked him if he knows the population size of Haiti. He said he had no idea. I asked him to try and guess and he said that he couldn’t.

I asked Jean-Ronel what he thought of President Martelly. He answered that he is a good president. I asked him why and he said that President Martelly is putting kids in school around Haiti.  

Many Haitians have strong ideas regarding US politics and our president. Over the years President Clinton was well liked and President George W. Bush was not so well liked by Haitians in my very informal surveys.  

When I asked Jean-Ronel what he thought of President Obama he said that he does not know because he (Jean-Ronel) “does not live in Miami”. (Poor Haitians refer to the entire United States as “Miami”.)

I asked Jean-Ronel what he thought of me. He said that I was “not a bad person”.

I asked Jean-Ronel what he thought of MINUSTAH. He said they were good because they enforced security in Haiti. (I don’t think he knows that MINUSTAH costs 2 million dollars each day to have them here occupying Haiti. But I doubt that fact would change his mind at all. Big sums of money mean absolutely nothing to dirt poor Haitians who have only a couple of cents in their pocket.)

When I asked Jean-Ronel if he had any questions for me, he asked me what would my questions and photos do to solve his own problems. I told him "probably nothing" but this information could make people aware of Haitian problems like his and maybe it could help Haitians “collectively” in the future.

Conclusion and Recommendation:

Lets face it, Haiti is a broken place. The situation here is inhumane, terrible, outrageous, unthinkable, and embarrassing. ( I worked last week with an American dentist who described her experience here as embarrassing....she meant that her Haitian patients’ teeth were so bad, she was having a very difficult time extracting them. And it was embarrasing for her to exctact teeth rather than restore them.)

In my opinion Jean-Ronel has no good chance at having a better life at least by our Western definition. He lacks the basics to survive with any dignity.

His daughter Manaika has a chance if the system could be fashioned to work for her over the next twenty years. She doesn’t need an i-Phone, an i-Pad, or an i-Pod. She needs i-Basics. She needs security, clean water, nutritious food, a good education, and a chance at a good job when she is 23 years old. Manaika does not need to be in an orphanage. She needs to be with her father and her cousins in Lizon. And she needs to be hugged.

Would Jean-Ronel and Manaika survive a bad case of cholera today if left to their own devices? Probably not unless his sister-in-law Vela intevened quickly. And right now she made it clear that she would take them to the wrong place for hydration. Thus, education has to occur from the ground up if we really want to help Jean-Ronel, Manaika, and their extended family.

So can Haiti change?

I don’t understand words and phrases like "neoliberal economic policies" or "globalization" very well.  But I do understand what Jesus said. He said to take care of the poor. And if all the emphasis in Haiti with the billions of dollars that was pledged to Haiti since the earthquake was focused on the poor, everyone's life in Haiti would improve...even the 1% of the people who own 50% of Haiti’s wealth. Jesus would have been a good economist.

The poor Haitian community, about 10 million of them, need to be put first. And alleviating Haiti's misery could begin. The poor should be our preference.

House calls can be sobering events. One may hear stories of fallen raccoons or even worse.  But house calls can teach much about people we care for and want to help.


John A. Carroll, MD
www.haitianhearts.org

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

7 Healthy Graduates

Graduating from Early Childhood Development Program today ... (babies have passed the six month mark)

Mommas Left to Right: Igemene, Djennie, Kerline, Marjorie, Samide, Dieumatha, Lovely & Agathe (teacher) in pink on the far right

(All baby boys graduating today except for Kerline. She has the only baby girl in this group of graduates.)

Monday, July 09, 2012

Jesus is here, difficult

Jesula D.
Meet Jesula Difficile. She is 31 and has one five year old. She has also lost two children during pregnancy. She's currently expecting again. 

Her life is filled with challenges we cannot even begin to imagine. She lives close to the edge. 

In spite of that she carries herself with dignity and courage. She experiences joy in the midst of her struggles. Her story is just one of many women in Haiti that bear incredibly heavy loads.

Recent stories told in daily interaction and relationship:

  • A pregnant woman is being abused by her husband. She has no one to go live with and she understands that reporting him won't accomplish anything that will result in improvements in her life.
  • A family of eight informs us that it is a 'non-dinner night'. They eat dinner every other night. On Friday at four p.m. they know that their next meal will be Saturday night. They're not fasting on purpose, they're fasting because their family budget allows for meals to be made and consumed approximately every-other day.  
  • A newborn baby comes down with a high fever and no hospital with room can be found to admit the baby.
It has been a few months since Jesula joined the Prenatal program.  From the day I wrote her name on her file it has become a regular part of our vernacular.  Jesula translates: "Jesus is here".  Difficile (difisil) translates: "difficult".

When Troy and I have our nightly debriefing and discuss the joys and sorrows from the day we tend to go round and round and round. Sometimes the best way to sum it all up is to simply add in one quick statement.  "Jesula Difficile, wi?" 

Jesus is here. 

We see that. 

Life is difficult. 

We see that. 

Pray for Haiti. 
Pray for the justice of Jesus to come quickly.

Saturday, July 07, 2012

Saturday Stuff

Anicia with her new son, her friend that helped her deliver, and Beth

Anicia and her husband with their fourth child 

Anicia called to tell Beth she gave birth at home earlier this morning. Beth and I made a visit to see how things were looking. Anicia said she delivered about 30 minutes after the contractions started and that she could tell the head was there so she didn't try to get the four miles to the Maternity Center. Her friend helped her with the delivery and everything appears to be great for Anicia and her little guy. Anicia and her husband now have three boys and one daughter and they tell us their family is complete. :) We're thankful all is well. 

We had a very fun (double) date night last night in Petionville.  We went to a great place with live music and had a blast.



Sunday Tina and Matt and Aidan leave. (sad) Our friends the Ericksons come for a night early next week and then Tara's Aunt, Uncle, Cousin and second cousin all arrive mid week for a five day visit.  (happy)

2012 has been the year of visitors (2006 was the last time we had so many people come see us).  We're touched that our families spent money and gave up vacation time to come be with us here. 

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Link to Isaac's post about making friends and the challenges with that. 


What is a Third Culture Kid?
“A third culture kid is a person who has spent a significant part of his or her developmental years outside their parents’ culture. The third culture kid builds relationships to all the cultures, while not having full ownership in any. Although elements from each culture are assimilated into the third culture kid’s life experience, the sense of belonging is in relationship to others of the same background, other TCKs.”

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TCK Paige still having zero fun in Cali ....



Thursday, July 05, 2012

happily occupied

Working Talking Guitar Talking Swimming Talking Hiking Talking Working Talking Eating Talking Kick-Ball Talking ...

Between regular stuff and having our family here we're very happily occupied.


Tina with Noah, Aidan, Isaac, Kevin
WorldCup KickBall 2012
Concert in Central Park Do-Over

Troy's love of all things Simon and Garfunkel is well documented and proven. The other night Matt and Troy channeled the 1968 version (you know, seven years before their births) of S & G and then pretty much played every song ever written and recorded between 1965 and 1972 over the period of the next many hours.  


The days are full, the evenings have been silly and entertaining.  
We've only got a few days left, we're making the most of every minute. 

Tuesday, July 03, 2012

of cousins & new babies

L to R: Phoebe, Lydia, Noah, Hope, Aidan, Isaac at Wahoo Bay


After the all day Saturday and Sunday dueling labors and deliveries, we headed to the beach to be total lards on Monday.  The day was lovely and restful. Isaac had someone ask him if he was Isaac of "Ask Isaac" ? - he was totally incredulous to have a real live person tell him they read what he writes. :) 

Updates:
  • Jeronie gave birth to a 6 pound 10 ounce baby girl at 5pm Saturday. Everything went well with her delivery.
  • Sunday at hour 33 of Walnise's labor it was determined that something was preventing her from dialating to 10cm (she stalled at 9cm for 9 hours) and we had to make the sad/hard decision to transport her for a C/Section. Walnise made us teary with her short speech telling us that we were all very patient and that it was not our fault and it was not her fault and that we all did what we could.  
  • Jeronie went home late day Sunday.
  • Monday Jeronie's baby quickly became very ill with a high fever.  Beth, Wini and a visiting nurse (Lise) got the baby on an IV and eventually they were able to get Medishare (Bernard Mevs Hospital) to accept the baby (after two strike outs at other hospitals). We're grateful Medishare is caring of Jeronie's baby girl.
  • Walnise was released from the hospital around noon today. She had a baby boy via C-Section Sunday night. She told us that the hospital also tried using Pitocin and she could not advance to 10 cm.  (thus the c-sec) Her son is beautiful and is 6lbs 14 ounces, he is yet to be named. 
Jeronie & Grandma and new baby girl

Walnise, Joseph and their new son

Please hold these moms and their new little ones in your prayers in the coming days and weeks. It is quite humbling to see the homes they return to with their precious, tiny newborns.  These are incredibly brave & strong women. We pray God provides and protects in miraculous ways. 

Saturday, June 30, 2012

Saturday's child works hard for his living ...

29 days since our last labor and delivery, Walnise appeared this morning at 6:00 am in active labor. If she delivers before midnight we'll end June with two births.  July should be an adventure. :)
Walnise is 24 years old. This is her first baby.  She has been healthy and has had an uneventful pregnancy. We're expecting a drama-free delivery too. She has a fabulous sense of humor and we're really excited to be part of this important day in her life.  Pray for her today as she comes to mind.  Thank you!

EDIT: 11am Update - Jeronie is on her way to the Maternity Center with contractions too!  Perhaps we'll end up with two before midnight? Prayers appreicated for Jeronie, and the delivery team of Wini, Beth and Tara.
Jeronie and Walnise - DUALING labors @ 1:15pm Saturday

Friday, June 29, 2012

big kids' summer activities




The veggies ran into my cousin(s) at Coldplay concert





Most days we celebrate the fact that Britt and Paige are in the middle of their own amazing adventures. On occasion we (okay, maybe not WE) thrash around on the floor lamenting how much our hearts miss their faces and the joy they bring. I cannot necessarily predict which days I'll thrash and which days I'll celebrate; the sad days happen without my permission.  In the past few weeks the pity parties I've thrown have been so poorly attended that I've tried to make major cut backs.

Paige is riding and helping train in new ponies.  She is working with kids with horrendously difficult pasts and sad stories. She is trying her hand at surfing. She is enjoying the company of inspiring women. Her messages say things like "this is amazing!" and "best day ever!" -  so we're gathering that California is treating her well.

Britt and Chris have 14 full time jobs and 7 hobbies and apparently know how to juggle better than people named Barnum or Bailey. They keep all those balls in the air and they still find time to look adorable and dress like vegetables in order to gain free tickets to a Coldplay concert.

Troy and I knew it would one day seem like we had two families; the big kids and the little kids ... We just didn't know that being parents of big kids would be so fun and entertaining.

We miss you our sweet big girls. 

Thursday, June 28, 2012

Direction

On Monday Noah came to the airport with me for a pick-up. 


The airport is good people watching if you can find a nice shady spot from which to observe. I especially enjoy watching the fancy clothing and insanely high heels. It's fun watching the bling of Miami making its way to Port au Prince. 


We stood waiting in the shade and chit chatting. Noah LOVES to talk and he loves one on one undivided attention. We were chatting about pretty inconsequential things when Noah said, "Ma, I keep wondering if God still has plans for me ... Nothing is really happening."


He thinks his 8 years of living haven't been too exciting or focused and he's looking for the path, he's wondering what direction he is heading.



It doesn't surprise me when I feel confused about my own direction or unsure of what path to take. When Troy and I talk about our future it isn't uncommon for us to wonder exactly what Noah wondered on Monday. 


We all want to know what the future will hold and what the point is and what the point will be and we want to understand what God is doing in us. We get so uncomfortable living in the not knowing. It starts young and most of us still feel some level of discomfort with uncertainty well into our adult lives.  


I didn't know exactly how to assure Noah that in this very moment things are happening and that we don't have to know exactly where we're headed as long as we're on the path ... (and that knowing would probably jack us up) I assured him that I am with him in the uncertainty, and that it's okay.


(From Love Does by Bob Goff)





Photo: Britt and Paige 2007 with island of La Gonave  (Haiti) behind them

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

of friends, fun, and paint

Kids saying goodbye to new friends
Kids working ...





Geronne


This week we had the pleasure of meeting the amazing people that will one day welcome Moses into their family officially.  He is definitely already in their hearts, but on paper there is some work to be done. 

Today after we brought them  (Moses' adoptive parents) to the airport (see photo at top) we went to the soccer field in our neighborhood to run free for a bit. Sometimes this goes really well and is great fun.  Other times kids or teenagers come mock and tease and try to walk off with our soccer ball.  Today was a good day at the soccer field.  We ran and ran until we were soaked in sweat and ready to walk home.

Once home we had lunch and decided that painting a wall together would be fun. (?)   

Everyone had a paint brush. Everyone had a small dish of their own paint.  Everyone had a section of wall that was to be their responsibility.  We use that word loosely in these parts.

The first to drop out was Noah, at about the twenty minute mark.  About five minutes after Noah bailed, Isaac left us too.  This left the girls to smack-talk and gloat about our superior work ethic for a little while.  

Geronne explained that painting is not something women would get to do where she is from and she liked that the system we have allows women to do painting work.  She joined us right away. I pondered that for a bit.  I'm all for gender equity, but what if I could get out of painting (or worse jobs) based on a cultural rule of that sort? The more I thought about it the more I realized we already have some pretty great rules in place.  Women (named Tara) don't do the work of catching rodents at my house.  I'd vote for inequality over and over again long before I'd be a part of moving a refrigerator and watching the mouse or rat scurry out from underneath it. That's man work for sure.

Lydia and Phoebe stuck with it for a lot longer than I would have ever guessed they would. They headed to the bath tub to get cleaned off after about 45 minutes of "work".  Hope and Geronne and I worked our magic until the portion we planned to paint was covered well. 

Having the kids (and Geronne) paint was partially about allowing them to be part of a group project and partially to learn exactly how patient  I can be.  I'm just gonna go ahead and congratulate myself here and now. I inspired me today.  

Noah spent more time choosing his painting shirt and making his demands to create a painting utopia  for himself than he did painting. I laughed at such folly.  Isaac stepped back into the paint tray when he came down off a ladder. I chuckled.  Lydia poured her paint on the driveway as she walked away with her container in her hand. I chortled. Geronne basically swung her paint brush like a baseball bat. If you were to come to my driveway and run random circles around the entire width of my yard I could probably spill less paint trying to paint you than Geronne spills while painting an inanimate object.  I didn't get annoyed or tell anyone I did not want help. I simply watched and marveled at what I was seeing.  I also thought, "My Dad could literally not be here right now. This.would.kill.him."

You know what? I never got witchy with anyone.  I let them paint and didn't correct any of their crappy techniques.  

At the end of the day we all felt pretty good about our uber white cement wall.  We showed Troy which parts belonged to which worker and waited on his affirmation.  He sort of delivered. He was a bit distracted by all the paint on the ground.

In other news:

  • Tomorrow we will say goodbye to Dr. Jen for a bit as she heads back to her other field of practice.  

  • It has been almost a month since a baby has been delivered at Heartline.  We're looking at a possibility of some craziness in July.  If someone comes tonight, we're all feeling ready to roll.  :) 

  • The day by day and hour by hour countdown that Isaac is overseeing and announcing randomly tells me that Tina (my sister) and Matt (my brother in law) and Aidan (my nephew) will be here in approximately 70 hours.  Never a more highly anticipated event in Isaac's life.  We are all very excited, Isaac is just MORE excited. 



Monday, June 25, 2012

mercy



By Henri Nouwen
Jesus Is Merciful 

Jesus is merciful.  Showing mercy is different from  having pity.  Pity connotes distance, even looking down upon.  When a beggar asks for money and you give him something out of pity, you are not showing mercy.   Mercy comes from a compassionate heart; it comes from a desire to be an equal.  Jesus didn't want to look down on us.  He wanted to become one of us and feel deeply with us.  Let us look at Jesus when we want to know how to show mercy to our brothers and sisters.


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There is much truth in that short little blurb by Henri.  

There is something very uncomfortable about being helped. I hate when I need help because it makes me feel powerless.  Oftentimes I'd rather struggle than ask for help. That should (and does) speak volumes to me about how those that need help in Haiti might feel.  

Living with an attitude of mercy rather than one of pity is somewhat difficult.

I've come to believe the attitude with which we help is more important than the help itself.  The nicest program in the world doesn't reflect Jesus' compassion if it is administered without mercy, love, and humility.

We truly desire to attempt to the best of our abilities to be an equal and we desire never to look down on the people we work with or interact with. We desire to feel deeply and show mercy. We want to be aware of any feelings of superiority. We want to act out of mercy rather than pity.

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Lord, please squash our tendency to operate with pride. Kill any attitude of superiority. Jesus please show us what Your mercy & Your compassion look like, and help us do exactly that. Amen.

Thursday, June 21, 2012

Mid Year Statistics and Stories

We're compiling mid-year statistics and finding that the second half of 2012 will bring the majority of our births. Between today and the end of the year we have 43 ladies due to deliver.  Both July and September/October have a lot of ladies due and will be bigger months.

January through today:
Born in January: 8 boys, 4 girls (12)
Born in February: 3 boys, 2 girls (5)
Born in March: 7 girls, twin boys, one loss of a very premature baby boy (10 total)
Born in April: 3 boys, 5 girls (8)
Born in May: 3 boys, 1 girl (4)
Born in June: 1 boy (1)

40 births to date in 2012
of the 40:
1 loss due to preeclampsia at week 25
6 transports during labor

Longest time period without a birth - 21 days (we have been waiting for the next birth since June 1st)
Most births in one 24 hour period - 3 babies were born on January 27th

Graduation Day for Revia

A few weeks ago we were preparing to graduate a couple of ladies.  I was hurriedly pulling files of ladies that gave birth last December. Once the babies are six months we present the mother with a certificate and a gift. We pray with them and thank them for their participation and they graduate and complete our program.  For most women they have been in our programs since early pregnancy, meaning they've been coming weekly for over a year.

On that day I called the names of the ladies graduating.  The others came to the front. Revia, the woman pictured above, stood in her spot. She was crying a little bit.  She told Wini that she was not supposed to graduate for two more weeks. Her baby had been born in late December, therefore she should not graduate until late June.  I apologized and teased her about forgiving me and claimed it was a tet chaje mistake (tired/loaded head). We waited until the two weeks passed before attempting to graduate Revia and her daughter again this week.  After class on Tuesday Revia sought us all out in different areas of the building to hug us and say goodbye. We asked her to please come to Friday Bible Study and visit us whenever she wants.  It is always surprising which ladies end up loving the program. Revia has a fairly serious and quiet personality; we wouldn't have ever guessed she enjoyed coming so much. We were touched by her gratitude and love of the program and thankful for the ways God showed up to use Heartline to help her feel His love and care.


Vitana has been named "Pwofese Marasa" - Professor of Twins!

We told her Tuesday that she'll need to encourage Dani, the newest mama that is carrying twins.   The boys are round, healthy, breastfed, chubby-cheek-machines.
Vitana is proud.  She should be!


We love the unique opportunities we have to get to know these ladies during one of the most important and challenging times of their lives.  We're blessed to interact with them and encourage them wherever and whenever possible.

The role that those of you that PRAY and GIVE play is equally, and possibly even *more* important.  THANK-YOU for standing with us to love and serve these inspiring women and their babies.
Please continue to PRAY and GIVE.

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

get to work kids

Our kids love to hear stories about our past.  They love to hear them and then retell them to us.

"Mom, dad totally did NOT like you the first time he met you.  Do you remember that he hated your big hair and thought you were rude?"

Yes. Yes. Of course I remember because I told you that story in the first place, little fools.

A few days ago we spend a considerable amount of our chit chat time discussing jobs.  It seems that we live in a country where teenagers don't get jobs like we did growing up back in the "olden days".  They honestly live in such an alternate reality that when I told them I started my first paying job at fourteen and that Troy was fifteen, they looked at me with the "you're such a liar" face.

I asked Isaac, "Well, what will your first job be?!?"
He said, "Hmm, I am going to be a vet. So something in a lower level vet office."
I had no idea what that meant.
Lower level as in downstairs office or lower level as in they don't yet care for real live animals.

Upon clarification Isaac said it means he is low-level and maybe just "holds the Guinea pig on the table for the first year".  He said "no dogs, cats, or turtles in the first year". (Turtles are high level??)

As I recounted the jobs I have had I tried to come up with brilliant little anecdotes about what each job taught me. Quickly I realized that 1. I have no brilliant little anecdotes 2. I have had a lot of weird jobs 3. Our kids don't think they'll work for real until they are 30ish and something needs to be scrambled in their brains (right quick!) to fix that.

My first job: Waitress at a private retirement community in a restaurant that was open just a couple hours each evening. It was there that I delivered dinner to elderly people a few nights a week.  It was a very fun and easy job as long as you didn't get one particular blind man in your section. His name was Stanley, he so disliked me. When it came time to tell him where his food was on his plate (beans at 9 o'clock) he always got impatient and angrily snapped at me before the words were all out and the explanation was finished, I was always nervous when it came time to put the food down in front of Stanley. I fantasized about spinning his plate and putting his beans in a place he'd never find them. I had that job for a couple of years before I moved "up" to a different restaurant job that required wearing a full Dutch costume. :-( Yeah, hat and everything.  Suffice it to say, I missed crabby Stanley pretty quickly.

Isaac would like to pose a question to all readers willing to comment.  He'd like to know how old you were when you got your first job and what job it was?  

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Paige's news (with her photos)


"So far my summer in California has been wonderful! Although I've been missing home a bit here and there, the Sarahs are fabulous and have been making me feel so at home in California. I've also been keeping very busy! I've been working with Kim and the horses at the ranch, which has been wonderful. She is a great person. I've been eating lots and lots of delicious berries and other America foods. I attended a Portland vs. LA soccer game. I've learned what "geocaching" is, and participated too! I've borrowed many books from the library. I've been using the fast internet and learning about Netflix. I've gone to the beach. I've been working at the farmers market and babysitting. I went to visit a cool ministry called, "Homeboy" and made some homeboy friends. That's what I have been up to during week one of my time here; the time is going so fast! I'm loving California" -Paige




Paige is staying with the two Sarahs and being allowed great opportunities working with Kim. Tomorrow they are going down to San Juan Capistrano to meet with the therapy director at another therapeutic riding center and observe a couple of sessions. It is a very large and reputable center that works primarily with clients with physical disabilities. Kim also applied for and received a scholarship for Paige to attend a professional conference in Nevada this weekend (road trip!) and wanted Paige to be able to see some of the different techniques prior to the conference so she has a better frame of reference for what will be discussed at the conference. Paige will get to see Kim looking at a horse she is considering for her program while they are in San Juan tomorrow morning; she'll see how they assess horses to determine if they will be a good fit for a therapy program.  


We recognize what an awesome gift all of this is to Paige. Not many 17 year olds get to have such an intimate and well-rounded look into the career path they are considering  -  we're grateful! 



a few of Paige's photos from early June:


Men may spurn our appeals, reject our message, oppose our arguments, despise our persons; but they are helpless against our prayers. 

~J. Sidlow Baxter~












Trafficking




I wish I could look the other way and pretend this doesn't happen.  It gets pretty difficult when we see evidence in our neighborhood.

It is overwhelming, but we can all pray and give and promote justice and help put a stop to this.