Sunday, February 13, 2011

sleep is for the weak

Heather and Tara attempting to help Asianne relax
Thursday night and Friday night were no-sleep nights as one of the prenatal ladies attempted to deliver a baby and we attempted to stay awake to help her do it.

Beth McHoul can put away some coffee. Something about drinking coffee at 2am just doesn't sit right with me.  Eating spoonful after spoonful of Nutella is an entirely different story.  The fuel of champions I tell you. 

Those two nights were insanely long. The day that passed between them was darn long too.  Jonna and Beth were thankful that one lady was not in real labor and was sent home, leaving us with just this one never-ending labor.

That labor gave the word labor a whole new definition.  Poor Asianne really had a time of it.  I have been strongly considering beginning formal midwifery training in order to one day offer more than just Doula and Nutella services ....  but wow ... that was an entirely new look at labor for me.  I don't think I could do two-nighters very often.

Find sleep when you can, on any surface you can

Once it was all over and I'd pieced together a few small chunks of sleep, the real evidence of fatigue reared its ugly head on Saturday night.  I might have been slightly dramatic and irrational and it might be true that I was crying about how unattractive, unworthy, unlovable, and downright hideous I am. Troy the ever patient and loving man that he is just disagreed and said maybe I was over tired and not thinking clearly. He suggested I sleep and see if I still hated myself and the entire universe in the morning.

Asianne ended up needing transport and a C-Section. Thankfully both she and her new little girl are doing well tonight.  The next ladies due to deliver if you wish to pray for them by name: Dalonne, MontCarmelle, Enisse ...  Not that they always go in the order predicted.

We've been verbally preparing Enisse.  At 15 she is understandably afraid. She seemed pretty surprised when I told her next week could be the week.  Hopefully she settles into the reality of this prior to the first contraction.

This week I have a goal of getting photos of the entire Harbor House and every employee and resident and updating you on things there.  Goals are good.  We'll see if Haiti and laboring ladies allow for it. 


Troy with Harbor House Mom, Djenie and her son Kenny

We skipped church and headed to the beach as a family today.  It was so much fun.  The beach we went to is about five miles from where we lived our first two and a half years in Haiti and we used to go there a lot. The food was still sucktacular but the place is so beautiful we just don't care. Paige took some really fun photos, as soon as she gets them to me I'll try to share a few.  Haiti has mountains that drop straight into water, it is breathtakingly beautiful.

Before I head to bed, quick request ... Please pray for Troy's Mom and Dad  - Bob and Karen. You remember that they lost their son, Troy's little brother in November.  About two weeks ago they had just arrived to Florida for a vacation/break when they got a call that Karen's Dad had suffered a major stroke.  They left Florida immediately to go to be with Karen's parents.  They were with them for about two weeks and just left IL and headed home yesterday.  Today they got a call that Karen's Mom passed away.  I cannot imagine how weary they must feel tonight.  They will head back to IL tomorrow and need strength for the journey ahead.

13 comments:

Pennie said...

Thinking of all of you and the family! So sorry to hear you are going through another loss!

Heidi said...

Praying continually for the beautiful woman of Harbor House and for those upcoming labors. :)

Praying also for Troy's family (and you family) amidst the loss.

Momto16 said...

Prayers. :(

debra said...

praying.

and thanks for sharing about your "tired thinking". i shared that part with Ernest and he said OMG, it's every woman... Ha.

CC said...

Oh, Tara! My heart is weeping for the loss of Troy's grandma so soon after Paul's death. Praying for Karen, and all of you.

~Carol C

HollyMarie said...

Continuing to keep you guys and all the ladies/babies/expectant moms at the Harbor House in my prayers. Sorry to hear about all the grief that Karen and Bob have to process; I hope they get a major repreive soon and lots of grace and love from everyone around them.

T & T Livesay said...

Pennie, Heidi, Sarah, Debra, Carol, HollyMarie -

Thank you so much for your prayers. Troy's grandpa is still in round the clock rehabilitation from the stroke and when they left IL on Saturday Troy's Grandma was not ill ... this is totally unexpected.

Troy needs to decide today whether he will go to support them for a few days or if that is not possible ... need prayers for that not so small decision.

loramapp said...

Praying...

nancy said...

I'm very sorry for the losses Troy's family is suffering from. We know God is near to the broken hearted, and I'm praying the family all feels that nearness.

Not sure how anyone can be strong enough to watch and help women through childbirth. Our daughter recently gave birth to our first grandchild, and I was a prayer warrior/an all-nighter-mad woman- house cleaning machine, waiting to hear both daughter and baby were safe. What a blessing to those young girls. I will pray for them and those who "labor" with and for them.

Nancy in the Midwest

KD's Korner said...

((((((((TROY AND TARA))))))))

So sorry to hear about what Troy's parents are going through.

They and Troy esp are in my prayers as they go through this and TARA you are in my prayers as you recover from your all nighters! :)

Loving God, Loving Haiti

Kelly D <>< :)

Laurie said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope Troy is able to make a decision regarding whether or not he can travel to support family. What a lot of hard hits the family has had the last little while. Praying.

John &amp; Perla said...

...and where is that beach?

T &amp; T Livesay said...

John and Perla -
We went to Kaliko that day ... about six miles up the road after Arachaie. Right near Wahoo Bay Beach.