On one of our last days together Britt cried that Lydie wouldn't know her. I remember feeling really sad for both of them. These two sisters have reconnected. Lydia (by her choice) left to go with Britt this afternoon. Just the two of them on a date. On Tuesdays and Thursdays she goes to work at a local church with Britt. She adores her big sister. It is so cute. Lydie also loves Chris (her brother-in-law) and calls him "Kiss" and runs when she hears he is at the door.
Yesterday we followed Britt to church and Troy said, "How weird is it that - that is our kid - driving a car - that they bought - there she is - right there in front of us?" I just nodded in agreement. All of this is so odd and so not what I thought February 2010 would be.
We've always sort of felt like our life is not our life. Having kids in college and in diapers - and all the other things that make us odd - we have no category. It seems even stranger to us than it does to you.
Paige is taking a three week Drivers Education course, another thing that does not seem possible. She is very excited. Because of this class even when we return to our Haiti home, she will be eligible to come to TX to take her test to get her license when she is sixteen. That is *big* to this particular 15 year old.
We're hoping to hire some Baylor Education majors in the coming week and get them started tutoring our kids. We've decided with such an unknown future and so much to process that traditional school is too much right now. For school, we're reading and writing and letting a lot slide so we can get counseling and go to Doctors appointments and simply work at figuring out life done first. Worst case scenario, the kids won't get a long summer break and will need to make-up work during that time. Earthquakes have a way of jacking with your plans and any ability to make new plans.
The last few days we've been reading funny FaceBook stati (plural for status?) about the people staying at our house. Kind of weird that we will never meet a lot of them. I am actually heading home on Thursday, very excited about that. I will only stay a week or two depending on what Troy thinks once I am gone. He is Mr. Dad/Mom/do-it-all Extraordinaire and will have (almost) no trouble running this show without me. It is super odd to be going to VISIT my home. But that is what I am doing, so just more weird on top of the weird.
I am anxious to work with Beth to figure out what the post-earthquake Heartline Womens Program is going to look like. I might get south to see the World Wide Village Leogane Hospital project. I am SO looking forward to hugging my amazing friend Jen and spending some time together without as much chaos in the evenings.
I am also excited to assure Jeronne that we love her and deliver her a new pair of jeans that she requested. Troy is giving me his list to accomplish and hopefully it will be an incredibly productive time. I truly hope and pray I can also use this time to help solidify some of the things Troy and I have been talking with God about. See you soon Ayiti Cheri!
For those of you that have received Humanitarian Parole for your Haitian-born child, if you have any marvelous government-type-people that know how to go about getting that HP turned into legitimate U.S. Citizenship ... please let us know. It seems most everyone is getting very few answers about getting started on that process. I get the feeling that will be the next battle for all the adoptive parents.
There are so many great songs and videos and efforts being made to help raise money for Haiti ... here are two more that I have not yet posted here:
Come Together Now - Music City Unites For Haiti from Provident Label Group on Vimeo.
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So excited to hear you are getting to go back. I smiled so big when I read it. I will be praying for those at home and you at HOME.
Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I have spent only 2 weeks in Haiti but I feel so connected to it. I am so glad to have found your sight. I found it from someone on Sherrie Fausey's FB page. Your words are so emotional it feels as if I am there with you in spirit. I know you have hear that many times. I can hardly wait to read what you have to say while there and when you return.
And although there are times when I wish for more choices there are other times when I must agree...AWWWWWWWHHHH too much.
Eagerly waiting your next blog!
My 8 year old and my 25 year old have the MOST AMAZINGLY close bond ... even though they have only lived in the same house about 6 months all together over the past 8 years (and eldest son spent 4.5 year away in the army, and serving in Iraq). I am always in AWE of the closeness between them. I am sure that Britt and Lydia have found that same bond.
Do. Not. Worry. about your kids' education. They will learn. No need for guilt trips. They will learn. No need to work all summer. They will learn. I have homeschooled for 20 years. Our formal schooling has been interrupted by more crisis situations that I can count. My children still learned. Do. Not. Fret.
Yea for Driver's Ed. I have one of those that is chomping at the bit to get started. :)
Praying for you (and the family) as you prepare to go "visit" your home in Haiti. Keep writing. Keep sharing. We will keep praying.
Blessings!
Laurel :)
mama of 13
My name is Vicki. I have 18 kids, 10 bio and 8 adopted. We also are white black and in between. My oldest is 42 and my youngest is 4. We run and own an orphanage and feeding and tutorial programs and a clinic in Guatemala. I would love to have a yahoo group or something where we ladies that are between two worlds and the odds ones out could chat. My email is 20.vicki@gmail.com. www.casadesion.blogspot.com
Tara,
Thanks for sharing your heart and lives with so many that will never get to meet you! I found your site thru Canaan's site. Jean Wesley has been sharing with me about your family as well as what I read on your blog. You and Troy have an amazing ministry at home in Haiti as well as in your own home. Thanks so much for sharing from your heart and the videos. God will take care of you! I will be leaving for Haiti March 5th-15th. Wish we could meet! Until then I will keep checking your blog!
I'm so excited for you about visiting Haiti. OK, I'm crying. Way too excited, I guess. Praying for the womens program.
Kate
(latin pl. status, english pl. statuses)
I am VERY excited to head home - I wish it was all of us and for good - but this opportunity is way better than nothing! I get in at dinner time Thursday. Yay!
I am so glad that you have the opportunity to go home for a visit. I think it will be really good for you and I would think easier without worrying about your kids being there and dealing with things too.
I was reading the Heartline blog this morning. It sounds like that women's program is very needed right now - well, always! What a great ministry.
Lori
To answer the question about turning an humanitarian parole into adoption...
From the USCIS website:
IF
The child was paroled into the United States, but there was no actual adoption or grant of legal custody from a Haitian court
Then
If you did not legally adopt the child in Haiti, you must decide whether to seek LPR status for the child as an “orphan” under the INA section 101(b)(1)(F) or as an “adopted child” under INA section 101(b)(1)(E).This last is most likely the situation for most humanitarian/adoption families
...
Adopted child case
Instead of following the Form I-600 process, you may adopt the child in the United States, under resident state laws and then wait to file a Petition for Alien Relative, (Form I-130), after the child qualifies to immigrate under INA section 101(b)(1)(E).
This means that you can file the Form I-130 only after you have lived with the child for at least two years and have had legal custody of the child for at least two years.
Note: the U.S. federal government’s release of the child into your physical custody is not legal custody for purposes of the adoption requirements for immigration as an adopted child.
After the child has been released into your physical custody, you should file a petition to adopt the child with the proper court in your home state, which will establish that you are legally the child’s parents and that you have legal custody of your child.
Most of the rest of the info is for adopting kids who will turn 16 shortly- as you will then lose the option to adopt after the 16th birthday- which is why I've omitted it here. The site address for the above is http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis/menuitem.5af9bb95919f35e66f614176543f6d1a/?vgnextoid=8c8df66872bf6210VgnVCM100000082ca60aRCRD&vgnextchannel=68439c7755cb9010VgnVCM10000045f3d6a1RCRD
T and T
Thank you so much for sharing your lives with us, ok actually with just me, but on occasion I have my husband read some of your posts. Your realness is real and that is why I believe so many are drawn to this blog. I hope you find everything you need when you visit your home and in some why you find peace in all of this tempest. Children seem to calm the storm at unlikely times, especially with odd realizations of everyday life. My family continues to pray for you and yours.
There are 18 and 15 years between me and my brothers. I left for college in the childhood and it was hard. Hard for them, hard for me.
Now- my brothers are uncles to my kids. I just blogged today about one of my brothers- now a sophomore in college- and his gesture of kindness toward my children and how it's a turnaround of something I did for him when he was little.
I don't know what it's like to grow up with a sibling. But I love the very unique relationship I have with my brothers.
Oh, Tara, I was not ready for the powerfulness of that video! I bawled all the way through it. I'm going to put this on FB. I would love to go help when the time is right. I pray that your trip is a good one. I know it will be. God bless you.
My oldest is 21 and my youngest is 2. He'll say "Hi, Momma" to me and then say "Hi Jessi, Hi Momma" to her. She'll say "I'm not Momma, I'm Jessi" and he'll say "Hi, Momma!" and laugh. I'm lucky to have her living at home right now. She has an awesome bond with him and my other 2 kids. Thanks for sharing your stories :) Glad you're getting to go back.
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Great posts. I actually followed your blog post earthquake. I then went to Haiti myself for 3 weeks with YWAM mercy works working in a post-op ward at New Life Children's Home. What an amazing time. I learnt so much from the Haitians. I miss it dearly and I was only there for 3 weeks. I can imagine how much you wanted to return. I pray your time their is productive and full of some sweet memory making with friends.
Blessings,
Sandra
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