Sunday, April 25, 2010

Weekend Things

We've just completed a weekend with absolutely zilch planned and not much more accomplished.

Saturday Paige and I headed out for a run in the morning. As a newer runner she is doing a walk- run interval but getting stronger by the day and decreasing the walking portions. She hopes to run at least 80% of her 13.1 miles in June. I told her to adopt my plan -- the goal is to cross the finish line on two feet. There is no room for legalism. Not for us anyway. Cover the distance.

Her cheeks turn bright red and her heartrate soars into the 180's as she works to follow the plan set before her. She asked me to be her trainer, I hope it does not prove to be the demise of a very solid mother-daughter friendship. :) She says, "No - I want to do this - sometimes you just have to remind me of that." When she gets home from Youth Group tonight she has some really cool news to share about a NEW matching grant. I'll say nothing more - she wants to tell you.

I ran a few more miles than Paige and returned home to a somber Livesay tribe. "What happened?" - I asked. Troy gave me a look to tell me that I better not make a joke and said, "Hermie was found. Dead. In the toy box."

The beloved Livesay children's pet- a Haitian Hermit Crab found on Wahoo Beach in November of 2009 and smuggled out of Haiti post earthquake by Vivien and Paige - died in Waco, TX of not-so-natural-causes. It turns out that if your hermit crab is left in the bottom of your toy box without water it will eventually fall out of its shell and perish.

Let that be a lesson unto you.

I tried to convince Isaac Hermie had a good run. What other hermit crab crosses the Caribbean by air and eventually becomes a Texan? Isaac was too sad to enjoy any of my dumb jokes. Troy organized a burial service and Hermie was laid to rest. It was all very lovely and crab-honoring ... until later that day when Lydia was bored and decided to try to unearth Hermie.

Troy's solution to the sorrow was to announce a trip to PetSmart. Inside of PetSmart all Livesay children begged for dogs, birds, cats and any type of more legitimate pet. (One parent knew that would happen but refrained from saying "I told you so".) Not to be deterred, Troy kept redirecting their attention to the $5 Hermit Crabs.

Lydia especially loved the rat running in the wheel and squealed with delight, "puppy, puppy, puppy!!!" Yes Lydie, that is a sick little rodent puppy with a long nasty tail that chews in the night and makes sounds that cause your spine to tingle. The kids pushed hard for a guinea pig or gerbil. Troy made generalizations and blanket statements about what types of people have rodents for pets. Some stereotypes are based in reality he said.

And now we've offended a new group of readers.

We left the store with two crabs ... Zero rats, gerbils, or rat-puppies.

Because he hates having his hair picked out, Isaac has let his dream of a large afro die (so much death) - so we went to get a haircut on Saturday. I flat out asked the guy on the phone "Do you know how to do 'black' hair?" I even went as far as to say, "I don't expect that you do - that is why I am asking." I must have caused him to let pride gain the upper hand because he said "Oh, I am certain I can do it."

Yeah, NO. Wrong. Answer.

We will go tomorrow to have a black man repair the damage done by Mr. "I am certain" white guy.

Today we went to church, had our friend from Haiti over for lunch, tried very hard to carry on conversation and remembered that entertaining with children is not easy, fun, or wise. Noah wouldn't let Troy talk to our guest ... he loves the sound of his own voice so very much. After the guest left the kids got a lecture about interrupting, monopolizing conversations, being rude, and acting like ... children!! It reminded me of the time I lost my temper at Noah and said, "Noah Matthew, you are acting like a four year old!" A little voice came from the back seat, "But - I am fo-ah Mama."

It is tuck-in time now and I must be sure the crabs and children are accounted for and mostly clean.

In the background noise of my head I'm continually praying for and thinking of Haiti while simultaneously trying hard to just "be" here and enjoy silly moments in PetSmart and awkward moments in hair salons and just cementing these memories we're making in Waco, Texas.

Yee-Haw.

10 comments:

Autumn Leaves said...

Tara, I laughed till I cried. I had to stop reading aloud to my husband for the tears rolling down my face. I have a headcold, which didn't help, but the laughter sure felt good. Thank you for sharing.

Miss Alissa said...

My best friend "lost" her hermit crab in college. She had managed to convince that since his name was Fish, that he fell under the "fish only" pet rule:) Well, she went to change her sheets and he came flying out of a sheet and shattered on the wall:S Oh, dear.
Thanks for the stories of life, I appreciate your honesty. Praying for you and Haiti!

joykatleen said...

Just thought I'd mention in case the pet store guy didn't (in an effort to save the little ones from more trauma) that the new crabs might not be as hardy as the import... they need humidity, and with the climate difference, you might have to keep an eye on the weather in their cage. Should be between 70 and 80 degrees, and at least 70% humidity. Did you get extra shells? Good luck! (And no offense taken. Rats aren't for everyone. Just remember they're God's creatures, too. Hehehe...)

Elizabeth Seay said...

laughing out loud by myself late at night. hilarious.
even funnier because we've had hermit crabs that died, very sadly, because we simply forgot about them.
(the kids became disillusioned with them after a few weeks).
we are terrible pet owners.

love the stories.
if i had a voice as cute as noah's i would like to hear myself talk all the time too:)

haitirescuecenter said...

I took Carmelo to get his hair cut when I was in Indiana. We went where papaw gets his hair done. The guy has been in business for 50 years and is going to retire this year. Carmelo was the first "black" hair cut he had ever given. The guy actually said to Carmelo "I hope my comb does not break with your hard hair". Carmelo was laughing so hard at the old guy and the old guy was trying to figure out what to do. I had to help out a little. Then we we got home I fixed it up with a borrowed pair of clippers. Se la vi nan USA. Miss you guys!

Mary said...

Love reading your blog for too many reasons to list. Once again, you came through with a good laugh when I really needed it. Good luck and prayers to Paige. So excited about your race.

Saw this article this morning.
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1983898,00.html?hpt=T2

Mary said...

Love reading your blog for too many reasons to list. Once again, you came through with a good laugh when I really needed it. Good luck and prayers to Paige. So excited about your race.

Saw this article this morning.
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1983898,00.html?hpt=T2

hopefuloffive said...

You make me laugh...I love reading so I can laugh. Speaking of black hair, my son gets his shaved with the clippers (with a one gaurd), not sure how that sits with the other black community. I was however told that little girls who are black should not have yarn braids, my little girl however thinks her "long" hair is wonderful and no black hair woman will convince her otherwise :) I am doing my best! We too have found entertaining people in our home with our five children (7 and under) is not entertaining unless they too have children (in the same age category and as many as we have)...got to love Noah, I think we have a female Noah here, freckles and all.

Rebekah :) said...

i have been reading from north carolina and loving you from afar. never commented before, but i wanted to tell you something and tonight seemed like a good time. i love and so appreciate your honesty. you are "real" and that means a lot. i know God loves us all, but fake people get to me. i love how you are open about your struggles, your times of wrestling with God, your hurts... my hubby and i are public school teachers fighting some difficult battles on our own field of ministry (i know it's not anywhere near the same & i would never equate what we do with your work) but anywhooo, your blog has helped me a lot these past few months. given me many things to pray about and made me laugh!

thank you for that!

emma said...

oh my word, never, ever let a white person touch your black children's hair (we learned that the hard way!!)

They will ALLLL say they know how to do black hair - and some do - but we found that ya gotta go to black salons/barber shops for it to be done really, really right.

No offense to anyone...just how it is.

:grin:

laura